Tagged: openers

This needs to be addressed NOW!

Since 2006, when I first entered the PUA/seduction community as a coach, I have heard a lot of PICK UP COCHES tell their students not to bother with MID-GAME. This means, they teach their students not to bother in learning how to build up much connection or rapport with a woman, and that men should instead focus more on going in straight away with sexual escalation.
They sometimes advise their students to be like a ‘caveman’, to be ‘overly sexual’, to ‘talk filthy’ to her immediately before even saying ‘hello’ This is what they mean by ‘sexually escalating right away’

NOW FIRST OF ALL, I have seen this work VERY well, BUT I have also seen it go completely wrong (even though some pick up instructors convince themselves it went ok)

This type of approach is ‘strong sexual directness’ and can ONLY work if the guy has an unwavering belief in him self, his sexuality and the ‘moment’!

This kind of super strong confidence takes time to develop and is something that can be incredibly powerful and can achieve amazing results- I teach it to my more advanced students who already have a strong belief in their sexuality and sexual confidence.

BUT!!!!!

Now this is important. Even for those guys who possess this kind of super unwavering confidence and have the ability to pull this off-

There will be times that it will not be possible!
What do I mean by this?

There will be times that you will simply not be in the mood, or the circumstances are not right for you to sexually escalate so quickly, or the hot woman you like is not receptive to this kind of technique. In those cases, you will need to apply a different strategy or strategies.

The strategies in this case that you will need to use are MID GAME based techniques.
MID-GAME is building rapport with the woman, using conversational pattern breakers, and making psychological and emotional connections. From this you can lead it to sexual escalation.

3 of the trainers on my team like to use immediate sexual escalation on women they meet, but even they admit that at times they are simply not in the mood, or the circumstances are not right for them to use this style of pick up, subsequently, they focus more on the mid-game part of the interaction.

Here is a past blog post with one of my best PICK UP instructors ALI, showing in a video filmed at the ACCELERATION EVENT 2011 how he uses rapid verbal/sexual escalation

VIDEO: ALI explains RAPID SEXUAL ESCALATION

In my opinion as a woman as well as Pick Up Coach, a man should never just rely on immediate sexual escalation. Instead, he should work on perfecting his mid-game skills. These are a vital part of a mans over all success with women.

Be great at both!

A great way to open a girl in a busy nightclub or a bar is to make an observation about her behaviour.
This is something a lot of men I know have used on me, and it works really well!

Next time you see a hot girl in a busy club, take a moment to check out her behaviour and the way she is interacting with other people around her. Based on that, build an assumption in your head of what she’s like as a person or what she does for a living, and then find an appropriate time to approach her with FIRST the observation and followed SECONDLY with the cold reading/assumption.

For example:

Lets say you spot a woman in a busy bar, determinedly pushing her way through to the front of the line near the bar area.

Go over to wear she is, and whilst you stand next to her, (as if you are getting a drink for yourself too). Casually turn to her, and say:

“ I liked the way you handled that crowd”
She will inevitably smile at the comment, and might even make a remark about the situation herself.

Next, make the assumption:
“ I reckon you are a CEO- only a person who’s in charge would do that”

Or

“I can tell you used to work behind a bar at some point, or in a club- only someone who is used to this environment can push in so smoothly like you just did”

This is a great way to get a conversation started without using any clichéd pick up opening lines or Pick up artist routines, and it comes across really natural too.

Women respond well to detailed observations, especially when they are followed by detailed cold readings or assumptions.

Women like to talk about themselves, and unlike men, they are open to people trying to analyse them, read them or work them out.

Try this opener, and see how effective it is for your self.