I know this tip may sound very clichÈ, but itís true. At some point or another weíre all guilty of judging something, or someone, based on appearance alone. While itís not right, we still seem to have that tendency to be superficial. This type of behavior can be very detrimental when it comes to seducing a woman. Women like to be appreciated for who they are, not what they look like. Even those women who have great physical beauty donít necessarily want to be judged on that characteristic alone.

Women keep the thought in the back of their mind that one day they may want to have a child. If and when they become pregnant, look at all the changes their body goes through. The mere fact that their body has to expand at a very rapid pace to accommodate the growth of the baby is frightening. And the knowledge that their figure may never be the same is equally frightening.

Another thought that women have is that eventually we all get older and less youthful in appearance. We know that in general, a man is considered more distinguished looking when his hair takes on the salt and pepper look, whereas women merely look old. A few wrinkles on a man are no big deal, but for women the first sign of a wrinkle is cause to consider botox treatment, or more. Society has made women terribly self conscious. Bear in mind when considering what you truly believe is important in a woman. If looks is top on your list it will surely lead to a very dissatisfying experience for you, and your woman.

Iím not trying to say that you have to resolve to be happy with someone you find utterly unattractive. Women all have preferences in looks, personality and many other traits that we have to abide by. Itís a matter of compatibility. But what women do have to take into consideration is that attraction is not just a matter of physical appearance. So take the time to find out whatís inside before you discount women based on whatís outside.

Sometimes, knowing what youíre looking for in a woman can be quite difficult. And if youíre one of them, donít get discouraged. It truly isnít as difficult as you may think to find the right woman for you.

The very first thing you must do is resign to be very open-minded. You need to cast aside all the standards that you may have been using and start from scratch.  Forget what all your buddies say is attractive. Never mind what you see in the lingerie commercials on television. Youíll want to start with the very basics of what makes two people compatible, not two lovers, but two people in general, in order to find what kind of person works for you.

In order to find out what you are really looking for in a woman, you need to take the time to consider the complete person, not just the body. You need to take into consideration things like personality, interests, ambition and then looks. Youíre probably wondering why I listed those traits in the order I did.

If you consider looks first it will tend to cloud your judgment on all the other traits. Men tend to be very easily visually stimulated. For this reason, what excites them at first sight tends to be what they think they want.

However, if you consider what you want in the other areas, the looks may not be so important. You may find that a woman with a great personality that likes football and racing as much as you do and who takes her career as a human resources director seriously, but who happens to be a brunette with only an average build, would suit you just fine. Personality, intelligence, ambition, sense of humor and interests play a much bigger role in attraction than just physical appearance.

When it comes to dating (or even seducing) a woman, confidence is vital. Women often equate ìself confidenceî with the ability to be successful. While many men believe that women look for successful men because theyíre likely to make more money, thatís simply not true.

While itís a given, women actually look for successful men because theyíre more likely to be satisfied. So you may be wondering what a man being satisfied has to do with anything. Let me explain. You see, women know that men who are satisfied with themselves are less likely to go out looking for someone to satisfy them and are more stable.

And in a relationship that means a man will be less likely to cheat, or change jobs frequently or get himself into any number of other compromising situations. Remember that most women are looking for a man who will be their partner as well as their lover.

Not only do they want a partner when it comes to things like companionship, decision-making and finances, but in the bedroom, as well. In order to effectively seduce a woman you must make her feel as though youíre both equals.

When it comes to confidence, it seems there are two kinds of people – those who have it and others who simply donít. Although on the surface this may be true, everyone has the potential to be ìself confidentî, or motivated if you would like to call it.

Take heart in knowing that youíre a good person, smart, funny, good at your job, loving, considerate or whatever else you find to be positive character traits that you have. Be comforted to know that NOT all women are looking for a CEO or brain surgeon. They just want a man whoís confident with who he is, what he knows and what he has to offer to a relationship with them!

Most guys believe that meeting women happens in the night. Clubs and bars are full of men earthing for women, however, have you considered meeting women in the daytime? Have you tried it and found it to be difficult?

On our 7 day MASTERY COURSE, we find that our students get much more numbers and ‘instant dates’ when approaching women in the SHOPPING CENTRES and MALLS.

In this video, which was filmed in Las vegas just before our SOLD OUT bootcamp, I go through the reasons for why Shopping mall are AMAZING places to meet girls…


Pick up lines comes under 2 categories

1. Direct.

2. Indirect.

A direct pick up line, or as some call it, a ‘direct opener’ is essentially a style of approach which states your intention.
For example:

“Hey, I had to tell you that you are gorgeous..my name is..”

“You really are stunning”

“I love the way you carry your self, it seriously sexy”

In order to increase the chances of a ‘direct opener’ or ‘direct pick up line’ working to your benefit. You need to be completely unapologetic and bold whilst delivering your line, as its important to remain congruent with such a confident opening line.

An indirect pick up line is essentially based on the concept that you are only talking to the girl because you need her opinion on something, or you need her to answer a question you have, or because she just happens to be the closest person around you at the time.

For example:

“Hey, can I get a female opinion on something..?”

“The music here is usually way better than it is tonight, don’t you agree?”

“Did you see that woman in here with the huge tattoo of a snake on her chest?”

NOTE: Situational observations are also considered to be an indirect method of approaching a woman.

The emphasis on indirect pick up lines or openers, is the ability to transition from the opening line to a full blown conversation, and once you have initiated a conversation and have gained the woman’s interest in you as a person, then you can start escalating the platonic interaction into something more flirtatious.

Both of the methods can achieve the desired results, so my advice is to not focus on just one style of pick up, instead, you should explore both styles of pick up. The main reason for why I advise all my students to become ‘good’ at both, has a lot to do with ‘mood’/
If you are not in the mood to talk for hours on end, then a more ‘direct’ approach will be a far better choice. Equally, if you are lacking that ‘spark’ and ‘that insanely powerful mind set’ that can turn even the most direct pick up lines into a winning formula, then it would be better for you to choose the ‘slow burner’ option of the two, which of course would be the “indirect opener’

If you want ANY pick up line or pick up line analyzed and rated, and even dissected on this blog for all to read,( your name will be kept private if requested) then leave a response to this blog post, and I will try to analyze and rate ALL the requests..

In the mean time, don’t forget to check out my PICK UP LINES APP, which is crammed with brilliant pick up lines for both day and night,direct and indirect.

If you want to start increasing your current level of success with women, then remember to check out the 12-hour PICK UP ARTIST COURSE,and the amazing 7-day PUA COURSE
Where you can work with Kezia and the rest of the team!

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A few months ago, when I was working with one of the students who was on our bootcamps, he jokingly made a comment that what every man needed was Kezia in their pocket. I laughed it off, and thought nothing more about it. That was until a company approached me with the more serious suggestion of creating an app, that would literally give men an instant treasure trove of ‘openers’ that could be used anytime and anywhere.

I knew this would take a lot of time and work, as I wanted to make sure that there would be a multitude of effective openers that could suit a wide range of locations and situations, but thinking back to what that student had jokingly suggested months before hand, I realised that this was the perfect opportunity for guys to have instant access to my advice when faced with an opportunity of approaching a girl.

I have selected some of the best pick up openers that I have shared with my past students,ranging from direct, indirect, playful, serious, shocking, cute, natural and routine based.

Whether you see a beautiful blonde walking her dog on a sunny day in the park or if you spot a stunning brunette in a noisy bar with all her friends, there will be a wide choice of pick up openers that you can approach her with.

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Here are a few very common jobs that you will find women do.

Waitress /bar work

Men often respond to these jobs by asking a series of dull and unimaginative questions, which consequently force the girl in to auto pilot mode, and as a result she does not emotionally or psychologically invest him, and eventually the interaction fizzles out quickly.

I firmly believe that ‘pattern breaking’ is one of the most powerful skills a man can possess in order to keep an interaction fresh and interesting, and it stops the woman giving ‘auto pilot’ responses.

Below is a list of what I call the ‘two option’ question that you can use to respond to one of the jobs that I listed above. The ‘two option’ question will force her out of auto pilot mode, and creates an instant boost to the interaction.


“ Are you one of those waitresses who is really rude and gets no tips? Or are you one of those lovely waitresses who gets all the tips and makes the other waitresses jealous?”

(what most guys ask: How long have you been doing that for?”)


“ Is teaching something that comes naturally to you, or do you find its not as easy as you thought, and that sometimes your patience feels tested?”

( What most guys ask: ” what do you teach?”


“ Are you totally alive and happiest when your are all made up and doing a photo shoot, or do you hate that part, and just do it for the bucks and end result?”

( what most guys ask: “Oh, what magazines have you been in/ are you a proper model?”)


“ Are you one of those dancers who uses it to explore self expression or are you a dancer who prefers to stick to dance routines and do the best you can within those routines?”

( what most guys ask: ” What type of dancing do you do?”


“ Are you one of those really hard working studious kind of students, you know the type who spends all their evenings revising and getting top marks, or are you one of those students who prefers the social life that being a student brings? Like going to the bars and using all that money that should have gone on books to have fun instead?”

( what most guys ask: ” What are you studying?”


“ Do you follow fashion religiously, and vogue is your bible, or are you more like Coco Chanel, someone who starts trends and is not influenced by current trends?”

( What most guys ask: ” Are you a fashion designer?”

These are tried and tested responses that I have given to lots of my students, and every time they use one of these responses the girl ALWAYS gives a positive reaction.
Women are sick of the inevitable and predictable list of questions that come after they say what they do for a living, and when a guy gives a unique response that they haven’t heard before, they instantly lock into the conversation.

Use detail when you give your 2 option questions, as this will make her think harder about her response, and she will give you more detail in return. You will come across as someone who is ACTUALLY interested in what she does and who she is, rather than just being like most guys who uses her response as just another stepping stone to ask her more irrelevant questions in the useless hope of stalling time.

The 2-option question, gives her a chance to explore how she feels about what she’s doing, and most importantly it forces her to focus on you and the interaction rather than losing the game to her short attention span.

The more you use the ‘2 option’ questions the more confident you will be in breaking patterns to whatever her response is.

The 10 hook lead system.

This system is by far the most popular request I get from my students. I want to share with you what the 10 hook lead system is (if you are yet unaware of it) why it works and how to get more information on it in the near future.
Let me start by revealing to you the 3 most common sticking points that my students come to me with. They are as follows:

Approach anxiety

Creating sexual escalation and/or getting out of the comfort or friend zone.

Running out of things to say!
Not Alone but Lonely

Running out of things to say, can actually translate to many other sticking points in regards to general conversation skills.
It can mean:

1: Not possessing the ability to avoid or stop awkward or uncomfortable silences.

2: Having dull and boring interactions with women he likes, even though he genuinely is NOT a dull and boring person with other people. (This of course can leave my students very frustrated!)

3: Subjecting the women to interrogation style questioning.

4: Failing to transition from the opening line in to a full blown conversation (failing to move the introduction stage on to the comfort stage)

Why does this happen?
There are a few reasons, but usually the most common one is because the man is outcome dependant, and consequently he is nervous. Nerves can make us all go BLANK, and when we go blank, we make stupid mistakes, which we kick ourselves over afterwards.

Another common reason is that a lot of my students are used to only talking to people in their social groups, and rely on meeting women via those social groups. This means they wait to meet women who might be sitting at their friends table in a pub /bar or club and therefore getting their attention through conversation can be done nice and slowly with zero time constraint, and of course all formal introductions will be made nice and smoothly too.

But in reality, men want to have the power to pick the woman whom they want rather than just rely on waiting for the RIGHT woman to join their social groups table or to be introduced to the RIGHT woman through a friend at a party.

Unfortunately, because they have gotten so used to the former method of meeting and talking to women, they now find themselves making one or more of the four mistakes I mentioned before when they approach a stranger.

The 10 hook lead system is a clear, practical and actually quite a fun way to have great conversations with women. It gives men the ability to transition the opener to a full-blown conversation effortlessly.
It serves to display the mans personality to the best of his ability, rather than change his personality or become someone he is not.

It can force even the most unresponsive of women to respond and it nails all those unwanted uncomfortable or awkward silences once and for all.

I developed this system three years ago, and each one of my students who have mastered the system now have zero problems in talking to ANY woman, whether its be in the street in the day time or in a crowded bar at night.

Why is it called the 10 hook lead system?

Simple. There are always 10 ways you can go with almost anything (hook) that she says. Having 10 options to go with makes it near impossible to ever run out of material.

The first step however is generating what I call a HIGH CALIBRE hook (useful hook) from her rather than a LOW CALIBRE hook. This makes the process a lot easier.

A high calibre hook can be many things; just a few would be MOVIES, JOBS, and HOBBIES. Where as a low calibre hook (useless hook) would be “YES” “NO” or NAMES. (that’s just a few from a long list)

i.e. if you ask a woman her name and she says “Sarah” then your options are limited in terms of where to go next. Where as using an opinion opener for instance that will generate a high calibre hook such as a MOVIE title, will result in giving you a whole 10 options to go with.

A lot of the time men get in to a frustrating cycle whereby they approach a woman in a bar, and ask her a set of questions that each lead NOWHWERE
“My names Gary, what’s your name?”
“Hi Christine, er so are you having a good night here?”
“Who are you here with?”
“Some friends”
“Cool, erm…do you come here often?”
“Cool, yeah its nice here…so..can I buy you a drink?”

Sound familiar? This is a classic case of a man generating useless hooks. She responds, he struggles to take the conversation further, in come the uncomfortable silences, woman gets bored of interrogation, man offers her drink in a desperate attempt to hold on to her attention, game over.

By the time he gets her to generate a high calibre hook such as asking what she does for a living, it is unfortunately too late! By then her first impression has set in, and her mind is fully concentrated on goin back to her girlfriends, or finding a polite way of ending the interaction.

Apart from the fact that he is only generating low calibre hooks, he is also constantly ending each answer with another and another non-related question.

Meanwhile the woman is getting bored, and quickly realising that she is not actually having a two-sided conversation.

She has no wish to ask him anything about himself, and definitely does not feel he is saying anything that will draw her away from having a great time with her friends.

How many times have I personally, been in this scenario with a man? Answer: Too many times!

In my next blog post, I will give you an example of just o ONE of the 10 hook leads that you can respond with. I will show you how just using one of the hook leads can open up the conversation and get her asking questions about you in return!

But first, you must understand, that it is up to you to generate the high calibre hooks from her in those very early stages in order to use the 10 hook lead system to its full power.

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Hey guys

this is a common question that my students come to me with:
“Should I approach a girl with an indirect opener or a direct opener”

I decided to give my answer in this video

hope it helps