In his book “Persuasion Skills: The Black Book”, Rintu Basu reveals that the quickest and simplest way to build rapport with a woman is to assume you already are in rapport with her. On an unconscious level, she will pick up the signals your sending and she will respond by reciprocating. Do that experiment next time you are around your best friend. Notice the level of rapport between both of you. Isn’t it natural and built in? So what I suggest next time you are around a woman, imagine she is your best friend, act around her as natural as you act with your friend and then assume rapport while conversing with her.
If you are hoping to be successful in the world of seduction, you’re going to have to know how to be sensitive. When a woman looks at a man, from her unique perspective, one of the key things she sees is how sensitive you are. It can truly be a pass or fail characteristic. If the lady in your life doesn’t see a sensitive side, she’s going to be put off. Personality counts for so much, especially if you’re hoping to go further with a relationship.
To begin with, it’s important to understand just what sensitivity is. Sensitivity, or being sensitive, is just one of those things that’s gotten such a bad rap as to make it virtually a taboo. But false impressions are to blame for that, and we can dismiss such misconceptions here so we can get on with the business of becoming a more sensitive man. But what sensitivity really is, in truth, is responsiveness to things around you. It’s a general sense of what’s going on.
Unfortunately, you may be thinking you’ve already got it pegged. But don’t think it’s just a matter of self-awareness and a general idea of the world around you. The sensitivity women want in a man goes a bit further. Or, put more directly, women are looking for a specific kind of sensitivity in men.
Here’s an example you’re sure to remember from some movie you once saw: a young couple are walking along a street at night, and the temperature is dropping. Conveniently, she had forgotten to bring a coat, but he had remembered to bring his. He notices her shivering, and quickly offers his coat to her, despite his own need for the coat.
Okay, that’s a basic example. But what matters is that the guy was aware of his girlfriend’s need, and he did something about it. Moreover, he made a sacrifice for her. This is a big deal. When a man can be more concerned about the welfare of someone else than himself, he’s got a chance to impress the ladies.
I know this tip may sound very clichÈ, but itís true. At some point or another weíre all guilty of judging something, or someone, based on appearance alone. While itís not right, we still seem to have that tendency to be superficial. This type of behavior can be very detrimental when it comes to seducing a woman. Women like to be appreciated for who they are, not what they look like. Even those women who have great physical beauty donít necessarily want to be judged on that characteristic alone.
Women keep the thought in the back of their mind that one day they may want to have a child. If and when they become pregnant, look at all the changes their body goes through. The mere fact that their body has to expand at a very rapid pace to accommodate the growth of the baby is frightening. And the knowledge that their figure may never be the same is equally frightening.
Another thought that women have is that eventually we all get older and less youthful in appearance. We know that in general, a man is considered more distinguished looking when his hair takes on the salt and pepper look, whereas women merely look old. A few wrinkles on a man are no big deal, but for women the first sign of a wrinkle is cause to consider botox treatment, or more. Society has made women terribly self conscious. Bear in mind when considering what you truly believe is important in a woman. If looks is top on your list it will surely lead to a very dissatisfying experience for you, and your woman.
Iím not trying to say that you have to resolve to be happy with someone you find utterly unattractive. Women all have preferences in looks, personality and many other traits that we have to abide by. Itís a matter of compatibility. But what women do have to take into consideration is that attraction is not just a matter of physical appearance. So take the time to find out whatís inside before you discount women based on whatís outside.
Most guys believe that meeting women happens in the night. Clubs and bars are full of men earthing for women, however, have you considered meeting women in the daytime? Have you tried it and found it to be difficult?
On our 7 day MASTERY COURSE, we find that our students get much more numbers and ‘instant dates’ when approaching women in the SHOPPING CENTRES and MALLS.
In this video, which was filmed in Las vegas just before our SOLD OUT bootcamp, I go through the reasons for why Shopping mall are AMAZING places to meet girls…
Mark J and myself will be releasing an e-book very soon on how to pick up women in the office.
So many guys spend so much of their lives working in the office, and they miss countless opportunities in attracting women they like who they see up to a whole 9 hours a day!
Simple, men believe that it is some what of a taboo to go for a woman whom they wok with, for many reasons, such as:
– If she rejects him, then he will have to face the inevitable uncomfortable silences and awkward situations that will happen as a result.
– People simply do not get involved with people they have to maintain a professional relationship with
– The lack of knowledge/skills and techniques that you need in order to actually make a move on a woman you are working with
This are the most common reasons that men use to avoid actually going for the woman they desire who they happen to be working with.
There is really no useful advice out there in helping men in this situation.
In this video Mark J touches on the this subject.